Thursday, November 23, 2017

Thanksgiving




Happy Thanksgiving! 

I hope you all have an amazing time with your loved ones. This year I am thankful for all the good that has occurred in my life this year. But I am also thankful for the trying moments and the moments that weren't all so pleasant. I am also thankful for these moments because they helped me not only learn but become a better person. Overall, I am thankful for this entire year and all the special people in my life. Thank you for sticking by my side, thank you for laughing, smiling, celebrating, crying and learning along with me. 

I hope you all have the best Thanksgiving with your loved ones -- filled with so many laughs, good times and reminiscing on memories.


I might've woken up extra early this morning to: watch the Macy's day parade (I have watched it every single year since I can remember) and to scout the best sales. I might also be 75% done with my Christmas wish list and Christmas shopping; but shhh, lets not tell anyone. And now for some of my favorite Black Friday/Cyber week sales! 


Alice and Olivia: 25% off your purchase
Anthropologie: 30% off everything 
Asos: 30% off with code: EPIC30 until Tues. Nov 28 at 2:00AM EST
Ann Taylor: 50% off everything with code: THANKFUL until Sat. Nov 25 at 12:00 AM EST
Banana Republic: 50% off regular priced items until Sat. Nov 25th at 11:59PM ET online and until Mon. Nov 27th in-store
Baublebar: 30% off everything with code: FRIDAY30
Free People: 50% off select items
J.Crew: 40% off your purchase with code: THANKU until Sun. Nov 26 at 11:59PM EST
Loft: 50% off everything with code: FRIYAY until Sat. Nov 25th at 10:59PM EST
Madewell: 25% off your purchase with code: DONTSTRESS until Sun. Nov 26 at 11:59PM EST
Nordstrom: An additional 20% off Black Friday sale until Sun. Nov 26 at 11:59PM PT
Rebecca Minkoff: 25% off your purchase of $100 or more with code: BLACK25
Revolve: up to 50% off Black Friday sale
Sephora: Black Friday deals
Shopbop: up to 30% off with code: MORE17 until Sun. Nov 26 at 11:59PM PT
Show Me Your Mumu: 40% off select styles with code: BLKFRIMU until Sun. Nov 26
Tory Burch: 30% off your purchase of $250 or more with code: THANKS until Mon. Nov 27 at 11:59PM PT
Tuckernuck: 20% off everything, 25% off $500 or more, 30% off $1,000 or more with code: GONUTS
Zara: 30% off your purchase until Sat. Nov 25 at 12:01 EST

Monday, October 23, 2017

Not Looking Back



It has been almost a year since I published my last blog post and this might be one of the more honest and vulnerable posts I have published since creating A Touch of Leopard. I was ready to part ways with A Touch of Leopard because to be honest I reached a point where I was uninspired and I was tired of all the mean comments. Let's fast forward to months later. The mean comments were the ones that discouraged me but then I started receiving mean comments from my surroundings where I knew I needed to turn to A Touch of Leopard to voice my opinion. A Touch of Leopard will still be based on fashion but sometimes I might go in a different direction because it is something I am passionate about. This blog post being one of them. 

When I started blogging I kind of lived 2 separate lives - one where i blogged and the other where I was part of Corporate America. Whenever someone mentioned my blog I would get so shy and just change the topic because I was scared of the judgement. I started blogging in a time where things were not going the way I wanted them to, and currently things are not going how I want them to so I saw it as the best time to turn to A Touch of Leopard. Let's all take a vow to be kinder, nicer, and empathetic.


If you follow me on Instagram then you might have briefly read what I am about to say. In the past couple of months, people that surround me took it upon themselves to not be their nicest. I received several belittling comments and making unnecessary comments - how I was fat, how I was ugly, how I was dumb, or how I was never going to get married. Here's the brutal truth - comments like calling me fat and ugly, no matter how confident I may be, after a while they got the best of me; especially since I was receiving these comments from people I trusted and called "my friends." Will I ever be a size 0 or 2? Probably not but in all honesty, I am pretty happy with my weight. I recently lost a little over 20 pounds but none of this was acknowledged; all I got were comments about how I was fat. 

Comments like saying I was dumb or that I wasn't smart enough are discouraging; I am someone who loves learning and actually loves challenges because it means I get to think outside of the box and learn new ways. The most annoying comments were comments about my love life. Yes, I am 26 years old and most of my friends are in relationships, engaged, married and/or have kids; this says nothing about me. Comments about how I should just accept the attention of anyone who comes my way because "I am running out of time," are unsolicited and upsetting; how can you tell someone to settle just to check a milestone off their list. No, that does not happen; you DO NOT settle. You go out there and find your person and fall in love and go through life making the most beautiful memories. 

And the funniest thing is while I was getting these comments, for the past 8 months I spent most of my free time with a beautiful soul; with someone who's company I enjoyed and he quickly became one of my best friends. But I kept him a secret as I do with most things pertaining to my love life, a couple of people knew of his existence in my life and that was good enough. Meanwhile the people making comments about how I should just settle or how I was going to end up alone, little did they know about the bond I shared with this lovely human. Things didn't work out and for the past month I've dealt with the aftermath of this fall out. It hasn't been easy and I still received unnecessary comments. At the moment I needed someone to tell me it was okay to be sad or that it was okay things didn't work out; but those are not the comments I got. Instead I got rude, mean, and belittling comments.

Here's the thing, nobody ever really knows what someone is going through and it really isn't your business what someone is going to. We should all be a little more empathetic instead of making hurtful comments. I've seen people get called fat or ugly and they suffer an eating disorder and low self-esteem. I've seen people with learning disabilities get called dumb or stupid. WE ALL JUST NEED TO BE KIND! Or some people get satisfaction at bringing others down and if you are one of those people then you really need to re-evaluate yourself and your life because it is really messed up! There is enough hate and tragedies going on in the world, we really do not need to be mean or hurtful to each other.


 I will always be the nice girl; I will always choose to be nice to someone, no matter what. I will always care about others feelings, I will always say good morning and say please and thank you, I will always wish people a good day. I will always be the girl who smiles, even if it is at a stranger, because you never know, maybe they were in need of a friendly smile. I will always hope and wish for the best for everyone, we all deserve success and happiness. No matter how hard I try, if I try being mean to someone in return I end up feeling guilty and probably results in me apologizing or me crying out of guilt. I am not ashamed of being the nice girl, in fact it is one of the traits I enjoy the most about myself. Yes, several people interpret my niceness as a sign of weakness and they will try to use it against me.


I titled this post "Not Looking Back" because I am no longer allowing previous comments get the best of me. I will take these mean comments and instead of overthinking them I will ignore them and continue being me. I will not look back and let what others have said get the best of me. I am moving forward and with that comes the return of A Touch of Leopard.




Sunday, January 1, 2017

2017 is all about....


HAPPINESS

Yes, you read that correctly and before you assume I'm being selfish or spent 2016 depressed; please don't.

2016 was a wide-opening year. I wouldn't call it a bad or terrible year because I try to refrain myself from using negativity when speaking. In 2016 I kind of lost touch of exactly what I wanted to accomplish and achieve; including with my blog. I allowed people, who I thought were friends, get in my ear and make me doubt myself. The saddest thing was giving up on my blog but because of the words said by these people, I became discouraged and constantly questioned myself. This also occurred with my career. I allowed myself to become negative, my confidence to be hidden, and to be embarrassed of my goals and the dreamer characteristic that so strongly overpowers my mind and heart. 

Let me take a moment and list the great things that occurred in 2016 because I don't want this post to be a list of terrible things. 2016 introduced me to some lovely people. 2016 gave me a promotion at work. 2016 helped me realize what the career path I want to follow. In 2016 my brother and sister-in law are expecting a baby boy; nephew #2 for me and I can't wait to meet him in 2017.  2016 was the year that helped me prepare for 2017 being an amazing year. 

Every year I make a list with 5 to 10 goals or things I plan on changing in the New Year. This year the only item on my list is to "be happier." I actually decided on this a few months ago and it was all thank you to my three year-old nephew. When he sees someone upset he will tell you "Be Happy." That is when I realized, being happy is as simple as those two little words. 

Happiness may seem like a vague but it is the best term to describe the things I plan on accomplishing this year. 
- Working out more? Yes, but because it makes me feel happier and more energized not because people think I need to lose weight.
- Eat healthier? Well maybe but I appreciate a good meal so no I am not giving up tacos any time soon but I will be adding more greens to my meals because in the words of Gigi Hadid, "Eat clean to stay fit, eat a burger to stay fit."
- Be more present? I've learned more from conversations with people when my phone was nowhere in sight. 
- Travel more because how am I supposed to find where I belong without seeing all the beautiful cities that are out there.

This doesn't mean that if one day I want to sleep in instead of waking up at 5:30am for the gym, I won't do it. If i want to eat tacos instead of a salad because I've had a long day, I will. It is all about balance.

I am working on making sure I am happier by adding the following to my 2017 agenda:
- Traveling to London this Spring with one of my best friend because London is my favorite city (from the cities I've visited so far)
- Going back to school for my Masters because one of the most common sentences I tell people when school comes up is "I miss the learning part of college"
- Less arguing, more complimenting (because sometimes arguing is a waste of time and you will only end up being upset and with an unresolved situation)

This year make sure to laugh a little more, dance a little more, sing a little louder, and just ENJOY LIFE A LITTLE MORE.

Moving into the New year I just want everyone to focus on being happier, more present, showing more love and making sure the world is a happier place. I read a quote this week and it is perfect for this year's focus: "Sometimes happiness is a feeling, sometimes it is a decision." So make sure you wake up every morning saying "today I choose to be happy!"

Happy New Year! I hope page 1 of 365 of book 2017 is just an amazing start to this magnificent year!

 

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